Pinky Swear?

Be honest with yourself before you try to be honest with others. This isn't easy and it's easy to miss stuff.
This "honesty" business has been circling my mind lately. I want to be completely honest with my life. It's almost mind blowing how hard of a task this is for some people and not even that but it's not even a thought. I hope to only give honesty.

It's Saturday today. I've had so far what some call a lane weekend. Last night I painted from 6pm until 10pm and was much needed. This morning I went to the market, painted some more, and now babysitting for a couple hours. Tonight I'm playing it by ear. I haven't felt fun to be around this week because I was feeling slightly drained and it's not fun to give people only 50% of you. I want to give 100%.
This weeks looking good so far.
Happy Halloween!

Have you noticed?

"I wish that my smile was your favorite smile.. I wish my style was your favorite style.. Actually I wish that you just loved me. All I know is that you're the nicest thing I've ever seen and I wish we could see if we could be something. " -kate Nash
This is a select few lyrics I heard on a song tonight.at first I thought how sad to sing about. Then I thought that a lot of people feel like that. Then I thought that a deep desire amongst many is not just to be noticed but be noticed by one; the kind of noticing where you're all thy see. The deeper part is love. The "simple" most complicated word. So much more then a word.
I'm very impressed by music. People's hearts are cut open for all to experience through music. I struggle with art shows because when all of my paintings are on display I feel like my heart is hung in front of me and I have no grasp. So.. Thank you musicians for sharing deeper parts of your heart.

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I have received a lot of genuine, positive feedback about my character. It's been nice to see how others view me because I was slightly at a loss to know. I want to uphold a positive touch to others when we cross paths.
I don't like a piece of the head space I've been swimming in. Time is always failfhdul to resolve.

Layers.

I want heels to be more apart of my every day life. I have always loved them but never took the time to stock up with them. So now I will start to stock up on them.. I really like shoes! There have been a couple situations where some asshole chose to give me negative comments while I had heels on. I am upset I ever let it affect me. Now I say screw you.
I had a small asthma attack/breathing dilemma a week ago whe running and haven't really been the same since. I think I just need to rest my lungs. I attempted a run today but couldn't finish.

I've had a lot on my mind/heart lately. One thing is that as hard as it is to share what we see as ugliness about ourselves, I find it to be the most beautiful thing about a person. In the past 2 months I have heard A LOt of people's story and deeper layers. It's something that usually happens often but it's been quite compacted lately.
Off to bed but maybe I'll writeabout love.

6 minute bagel stop.

If I do not have the 6.5 minutes it takes to melt the butter and put cream cheese on a toasted bagel that I ordered on-the-go.. then it's just not worth it. Otherwise I wear all the crumbs, the butter either does not melt or get used, and how am I supposed to drive a manual and do all that?
I decided this yesterday at 7:30am just shortly after buying my bagel.

I pass the road to my house every time I come from the Goleta side and still can't seem to slow down appropriately to turn from the 154 side.
Last night I saw a mountain lion. I was shocked.. I even checked photos online to make sure it was for real. I also reported because I think thats what you do when Irwin a residential area.
Today I saw dolphins while on my run. It was really neat. They were so close to shore and just looked utterly peaceful swimming in and out of the baby waves. I also saw a couple's Public Display of Affection while rolling around in the sand. Lovely. Shortly after an old guy was walking down the shore with his murse (man purse) wearing a too-tight thong that was Hawaiian flower themed. I know.. I accidentally noticed.
So I'm starting to seriously consider eye surgery.since I don't qualify for Lasix the surgery I can get is very intense and last I heard it isn't the most recommended procedure. But my contacts are really getting to me more and more. We'll see.
I am so tired and have drawings to do bu felt the urge to write this randomness inside me. I have deeper heart matters to express but in due time...

I think I might have inhaled you...

You've gotten into my bloodstream.

I've made a choice to walk through life allowing myself to live deeply with others. With this choice comes vulnerability, trust, unconditional love, patience, heartache.. The list goes on. Pain. Pain is a part of life. I also think it's the seed of growth I'd you press forward.
This decision is a hard road to walk down but I know that I won't regret it, I know I'll look back (as I already do) and have a heart full of thanks.
Now this road walking deeply also isn't just with anyone, I do think through people, situations, heart status...

Its Sunday morning and I don't want Monday to come. I am giving my two weeks notice today as I have found a job I see as a better fit in more ways than one. I am still processing how I will execute giving my two weeks and am slightly anxious about it.

Yesterday I was lost in the mountanside labyrinth of Santa Barbara for 3o minutes. Probably the most stressful thing if my week. I know the locals understand the twisting, turning , backwards, up and downs of this mountainside... BUT I still dont. And it all looks the same. And after a while I can't tell if I am going up, down east west. I mean who designed that labyrinth? After I found my way out I did not proceed to my destination, I came home and recovered by taking a nap. Oh wait.. First I though that it mint be refreshing to eat a pineapple guava which tasted like a bottle of bad perfume. Last time I do that.

Zzz.

I think tonight is the night sleep will find me. I was so utterly exhausted today that when I tried to take a nap I slightly dozed for ten minutes. I am drunk tired now and it's 11. I don't work till 10am tomorrow which is beyond amazing.
(There's an animal on my deck at this very moment that made my heart drop from the noise it made.)

I had a good day. I felt really empowered today, really free. Then as the night came on I started to feel lonely. I had plans with people and followed through but I felt alone in a crowd which Is almost more upsetting. For ne it is at least. It always points back to a deeper reasons for feeling lonely.

Off to bed

The more beautiful you become....

At this point in life I have decided to not let my sleep issue madden me. I've very much been going through a bad sleep spurt. It's annoying, it makes me tired, I could let it turn me into a butthead... but I decided a while ago that letting a lack of sleep ruin my opportunity for life was worthless and probably made other's day worse then mine. It's 1:30 I am not tired, have a lot on my mind and have to wake at 6:40 and I am set out to have a good day tomorrow.
I am starting to major in things I used to minor in and shift around things in my life. Not to make anything more or less important but just trying to cover it all and really find a clear mind. I think the past few years was a season of facing giants for me and I made the mistake of making certain decisions with negative consequences in an unhealthy mind state. The leaves have since turned a bright orange.
I can't seem to keep up with my processing and it seems that everything inside wants to be processed now and fast. It's a mixed feeling, amazing but tiresome. I can't seem to get it all processed. Good thing time exists.
I feel more teachable then I have been fir a while. I think I wasn't extending myself to be taught, recently, because I didn't seem to find very many that I found worth to learn from, which does not mean there isn't worth for another.
I have a heavy heart and it's a healthy heavy heart.
The desire for intimacy and freedom to be vulnerable cries within but knowing that being vulnerable is very nude, stretching, ugly at times... Ect stops me in my path. But the larger thing that stops me Is the fact that I don't jump until you jump. There is a gray area in that but I know that I am a protected of my heart before I'm a jumper. I clearly am aware of why that is but that doesn't mean it is an easy thing to change or even something I want to tackle.
Throughout these adult years I feel like I have to narrow into to 2 or 3 parts me of me to tackle and find freedom from that is a result of my life. I found that if I look at all the fixed layers inside then I instantly overwhelm and shut down to even trying. Not a fun path to to walk. So I learned that lesson and have committed to not allowing myself to look at all in one sitting. With that said, it takes a lot of time. More then I always plan or expect. Expectations are a premeditated disappointment.
I truly believe that we only flourish more beautifully as we swim deeply with others but somewhere along the way find it safe to feel ugly within that vulnerability. The truth is that we are only really ugly to ourselves.
Pain is the seed of growth and seeing our deepest layers can be very painful.
More is within but I actually think that sleep might find me...

Ppsshh technology. Love hate.

Dumb computer. I just wrote a really great blog- by my standard- and lost it. Irritating. That is the kind of thing that really erks me. And the fact that it's raining really hard right now and thunder and lightning freak me out a lot.

Hearts are meant to love deeply.

I see the good. The good in people, the good in situations, the good in life. I'm not perfect at this "seeing good" thing all the time but I'm noticing this about myself and have also been told by people that I do so. I keep noticing that I'll tell someone how great someone else is and thT person always seems to respond with " yeah but.." and it just hurts me and sucks all at the same time because I dont think like that. I also dont want to think about the bad. I observe things and notice faults just like everyone else but it's not how I want to know a person. I thank my background/childhood for this.. Between moving around and not always fitting in and havingto start over a lot.. And other reasons I'm sure.
I also know that everywhere I go I hear peoples stories, where they're going, what they've done or are doing, their pains, joys, aspirations. I have this gift of listening ; but as someone brought it to light to me today they said that I have a very trusting presense about me that is non judging and desires to know. Which I think, for the most part, is very true. I deeply love, deeply hurt... The list goes on. This person reminded me today that I can leave these burdens with God because I carry a lot of peoples burdens. Which I do feel like we are called to do its just a matter of doing so in a healthy manner.
These past weeks have really been weeks of self reflection and spring cleaning.. Cleaning of my heAert and soul.

Know that you are blessed.

I've been presented this week with the reality that I have created a distance in my heart with God and only the first board of the bridge has been laid. I always believe it's not possible to stray but I also know that is the most ignorant thing to believe. I love God and I know that. My heart craves Him and I know that I will continue the path to follow. I also know that there are parts of me that I have taken back. Parts that He once had completely and over time, with pain, I have taken them back and now fear is in front of them.
Those that are precious to God are important to satan. -"Same Kind of Different As Me."
I find that to be true. The enemy is always on the prowl.
The times I have been closest to God and letting Him own all of my heart have also been my most heavy hearted and depressed seasons of life. I don't want that. I don't want to feel heavy hearted and depressed. I also know that brokenness occurs only to flourish into something greater and I believe that God ONLY wants something greater. I also know that praying for joy in Him is something I have never done.
I was most encouraged today by someone I've only known a month. She was the first person I met at church and I already know that our friendship will be far from meaningless.
I was encouraged to rely on God in a way I haven't for a very long time.
I find it true that when we share details to the seasons of our lives in a transparent form, we share God's story of His redeeming and sanctifying Love. I saw that tonight brighter then I have in a while.
Thank you.

Comics?

Frequently on my jogs along the beach I tend to see the same guy in bright red- on the line of pink colored thong-ish not quite fully speedo swimwear. He lays in the same spot everyday with a hat in his wrinkly skin, his bike not far and always has a palm leaf sitting upright in front of him. He's quite the character.
Thursday night at 9:30 I had just left Border's and bought a large hardback book. I was walking along state to my car when a homeless man walked up to me screaming jibberish. And by jibberish I literally mean no clear language was streaming out of his mouth. I tried to pass him and he got in my way.. this went on a few times and I then had to go out onto the road and walk in the bike lane. I seriously thought about smacking him in the head with my book.
Yesterday while jogging I saw a woman in her late 40's I'm guessing with her man (husband?boyfriend?) on the shore, standing up; she had rolled his short legs up and was lathering suntan lotion on his upper thighs. Gross. Please do that at home.. or not at all for that matter.
Last night I stopped by CVS and saw a woman with army pajama pants on and a black thong over the pajama pants. Yes you read that correctly. She was also showing her mid-section.

Oh thank you Santa Barbara for making my life comic strip and I'm just the narrator.

A lyric ran through my head last night and the words had left my lips as I opened my eyes from sleep..

I've had so much to write about but everytime its all in the forefront of my mind I either can't sit down at the computer or am out and about.
First of all.. Stateless is a great band. I just discovered them. Totally hooked.
His voice is epic and the music kind of reminds me of Mutemath but not as much noise. If that makes sense.
I have been failing at my at least 30 minutes of art everyday lately. I've gotten so sucked into stenciling that I'm not working on stuff that really needs to be worked on. And I keep seeing things I should be submitting my art into and not doing it because I have some unfinished stuff, some frameless stuff, or whatever the case. There's always an excuse right? Well I don't really want to have excuses anymore. I've always had excuses for art in some form or another that prevented me from really stepping out there. One of my huge goals and challenges I knew I wanted to conquer moving to Santa Barbara and I want to stick to it.
The gray weather really gets to me. Not a fan. I have noticed the past couple days finding myself slightly down, slightly sluggish. A feeling I never want to feel or visit again. Especially now that I no longer live in WA.
Goodbye gray skies.
The idea of selfishness has still been whirling around in my head. I think about how I am selfish and how it works itself in or out of my life. But I am also taking notes on others. I am definitely one that observes. I always have been. I have learned a lot in just observing. I have found that in our quest to become more selfless we can be selfish. It's almost a blind trick and we don't realize that out of selfishness we are trying to be selfless. I know I just repeated myself. It's just me processing. Its a tough subject because I think selfishness and selflessness can be interpreted by people differently and very wrongly depending on expectations and such. Lot to think about.
So I started reading Same Kind Of Different As Me. I am really enjoying it a lot. I started Grapes of Wrath not too long ago because John Steinbeck is one of my favorite authors but it was moving so slow. But this other book really has me. It really has been a while that I have read a book that has my attention to where I'm trying to stay awake to read rather than falling asleep in the words.
I have an interview in an hour and a half. Its for a different family to nanny for and the benefits are so much better on all levels then my current position. There are good things about my current position but there is too much messiness and other stuff that I know I won't be staying in this current position for long. I did apply for an art teaching position that I qualify for. I did that monday and as it is only wednesday I still have not even heard if they received my application or resume. We'll see. That would be the ultimate position rather then being a nanny. A nanny job to me is just a job I can handle that has consistency, pays the bills, and is good while I finish school. Definitely not something to end with.
I was going to run tonight but the weather is gross and I have decided that after my interview I will come home and do art. Really crack down on some projects.
And for now.. I'm off to do art before as well!

Dang yesterday was crazy packed. I started the day with a nice cup of coffee and a book. At 9am I went on a hike with a friend that lasted about an hour and a half. It was lovely and the view of Santa Barbara was amazing. Even that early it was freakin hot.
After that we swung by the market, bought some food and ate all the samples. Then I went and played soccer for an hour and a half. I then ran home, showered, then took some kids to the beach and we played volleyball.
We were there for a couple hours. Then ordered pizza, had ice cream and watched a movie. What a day. I feel pretty beat today but it was worth it. I'll be going to the avocado festival i carp today =D.

Lately the idea of selfishness has been consuming my mind a lot. I've been processing through how selfishness plays out in people's characters and stuff like that. How I can be selfish.
I really do think it's a crappy thing to be but being human it will rear its head often. To be selfless is really hard and to find a balance between all of these things is not easy.
eh.. thats all for now. I think i'm still to tired to think hard right now.

LOVE IS NOT AGAINST THE LAW